THE IMPOSSIBILITY OF THE IMPOSSIBLE

By: Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

IMPOSSIBLE

Have you ever taken the time to think about things that are common place today, that were considered impossible not too long ago?  Consider today’s athletes – on July 24th, 1908 an American athlete by the name of Johnny Hayes ran a marathon in London, and created a new world’s record by completeting the marathon in 2 hours, 55 minutes, and 18.4 seconds.  Just under 3

hours.  That was the world’s record!  If  you suggested that it was possible to run the marathon any faster than that, he probably wouldn’t have listened…he knew how hard he’d worked to make that record.  And if you told him that he could cut that time by a third, he would have told you it’s absolutely impossible.  It can’t be done.  No human could run a marathon in 2 hours.  But over the years, athletes have competed and tried to beat the previous record.  Every few years they set a new record by breaking the old one by just a few seconds – and today the record stands at 2 hours, 2 minutes, and 57 seconds, set by Dennis Kimetto from Kenya on September 28th, 2014 at the Berlin Marathon.  Marathon runners are now focusing on breaking that 2 hour mark, and they will do it at some point…but not without an incredible amount of determination and hard work.

I won’t say that absolutely nothing is impossible.  But what I will say is that before we just throw our ideas and dreams into the “impossible bin”, we need to really look at why we are doing it.  So many times we miss out because we label something impossible before we even try or as soon as it gets a little tough.  In reality, the majority of the time when we say something is impossible, what we really mean is that it isn’t important enough to us, or isn’t worth the effort…or maybe we just don’t believe we can do it.

As a life coach, my goal is to help my clients to “dream huge”.  Not just big, but huge.  Forget being logical, forget what you can or can’t do, forget all the obsticles.  Just dream.  “If you had a magic wand, and you could make absolutely anything happen, you could change anything about you, your life, or your circumstances right now, what would you do?”, I ask them.  And the funny thing is that if you take away all of the road blocks like not having enough money, not having a good enough education…and you just let yourself dream, you can come up with a wonderful vision.  But so many of us don’t do that because we feel that there is no way we can get there – it’s impossible.  It’s illogical.  It’s rediculous.  It’s just daydreaming…and you know what they say about daydreamers!

But, if you can set aside all the self-created road blocks, and just dream, it’s amazing what can happen.  Instead of looking at your future as what you wish you could do or you hope you can do, you start looking at your future from the standpoint of what you need to do to make it happen.  It takes you from just “trying to do your best” to doing what you need to do to be your best.

Dreaming huge allows you to look at what you really want out of life, what really matters to you, and what you consider real success to be.  And that is all very important information.  You have to have those answers in order to achieve your full potential.  If you dare to dream huge, reach for the stars, and really focus on a vision for your future, and then figure out what you have to do to make it happen, it changes your whole focus.  It gives your purpose.  It gives you clarity.  It enables you.  It strengthens you.  It empowers you.  And as I say to my clients, if you shoot for the stars and don’t quite make it, well, you still will get a lot farther than if you didn’t shoot for the stars at all!

So I’m not going to say that nothing is impossible.  But what I AM going to say is that before you label it as impossible, be sure it really is impossible.  If it’s hard, label it hard.  If it’s excruciatingly hard, then label it so.  If it’s not worth the trouble, then label it so.  But if it is something that you really want to do and really believe in, don’t just flush it as impossible.  Look at it honestly, and figure out what you need to do to make it happen.  Don’t listen to other people who tell you it’s impossible!  Believe in yourself.

And before you say it can’t be done, give us a call and get a second opinion.  You’ll be glad you did!  Because we will never tell you that you can’t…we’ll just ask you how you plan on doing it, and help you put that plan together.  Then it’s up to you whether it is worth it to put in the effort.

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

©Success With McIntosh

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The Power of Teamwork

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Do you think about your business first thing in the morning before you even get up?  Is your goal for the day what makes you get out of bed?  Then you’re probably an entrepreneur.

Do you fall asleep listening to a ceiling fan and hearing a song in the sound it makes?  Do you hear music in every situation?  Then you are an artist.

And whether you are an entrepreneur, an artist, or a business owner, one of the hardest lessons to learn is teamwork.  I have the right to say that…I’m a self-employed entrepreneur, and I speak from experience.  Nowhere in school, at least not when I was Successin college (and granted, that was lightyears ago), did they teach students on the subject I am going to cover in this blog, and yet I believe it is one of the most important lesson one has to learn in order to be successful in business.  And it’s worth repeating – regardless of whether you are an entrepreneur, business owner, or artist, this blog is relevent to you.  Artists don’t always think of themselves as business owners, and that is something I have discussed with quite a few artists, but you are.  If your music is your career, then it is your business.  And as a business owner, this blog is important to you.

As entrepreneurs and artists, we are very passionate about what we do.  It’s different than having a 9 to 5 job working for someone else and creating their dream.  Our work is who we are…it’s what drives us.  It’s what wakes us up in the morning.  It’s what we talk about the most.  It is what determines what kind of relationships we have.  Many of, and sometimes ALL of our decisions throughout the day are made around our work.  And that’s not necessarily a bad thing if handled in a positive way – but I’ll save that discussion for another blog.  But it’s not a bad thing.  In fact, I happen to LOVE to work with entrepreneurs and artists BECAUSE of that passion and zeal for life and work.  They are inspiring.  They are determined.  And they typically just don’t let things get them down.  One thing for sure – you DON’T tell them “it can’t be done”!

But, back to teamwork…
The very characteristics that I just described also often times become our greatest challenge.  The fact that we are so passionate about our work, the fact that we are so emotionally invested in our work, the very fact that our work is so much of who we are makes it very, very difficult for us to “share” – in fact, it can feel like it is almost impossible.  We have a hard time giving up the reigns.  It is incredibly hard for us to let someone else take over a segment of our businesses and to hand over control.  It feels unnatural, it feels like it goes against everything we believe in, and it is as scary as __________ (you can fill in the blank).  The hardest thing for an entrepreneur or artist to do is trust someone else with any aspect of their business.  And that is because that business is our dream.  It is our vision.  It is our baby!  If an artist writes a song, he has poured out his heart and soul into that song.  If an entrepreneur starts a business, he has probably set aside everything else, and even gambled with everything else, in order to make that business happen.  And nothing was more exciting than when that business or song came to life.  So now to trust a portion of it to someone else is really difficult.

But this is what I tell clients – you can’t be an expert at everything.  If you tell yourself you are, you’d better be careful.  I don’t want to go to a doctor who tells me that he is an expert at everything, because I won’t trust him.  If I need to go to the doctor because I have a heart issue, you’d better believe that I am going to go to a specialist!  Well, we need to give our businesses the same kind of care.  If we hang on to all aspects of our business and insist on doing it all by ourselves and on retaining control of everything, our business is going to suffer.   It won’t reach it’s full potential.  It won’t grow as it should.  It is really important to pay attention to your business by providing it the care it needs and deserves.  And the way to do that, while in principle is simple, putting it into action is not simple.  What I tell most clients that are having trouble with their businesses is this: “Take the time to build relationships.  Find people you really trust.  Hire experts you really trust, let them take over the things in your business that you are not an expert at, and you do what is your expertise and passion.”  It is important to hire people with the mindset of getting to really know and trust them and let them take over areas of your business that you need help with.

Because I have seen this as a common problem among clients, I have created mastermind groups that are designed for entrepreneurs and artists and their unique needs.  Our mastermind groups are put together in a format that provides individualized guidance to each member, and creates strong relationships built on trust, a common mindset, and a desire to support each other’s businesses.  The beauty of surrounding yourself with other business owners and learning to know and trust them, to share your expertise with them and have them do the same for you, is that you find that it opens up amazing doors.  Every person in the group will have a different background, different experiences, different training, and different strengths.  And so as you share your business concerns, every person in the group will consider the concerns from a different perspective.  In the mastermind groups, you will build a team that will focus on building your business and provide you with expertise that you don’t have, and you will have the opportunity to do the same for each of them.  And that is powerful!  As entrepreneurs and artists, we tend to be “tunnel visioned” – we are so close to the problem that it is hard to see the right steps to take to overcome the problem.  So it is absolutely amazing and so exciting to watch what happens when you put a group of 12 passionate business owners together, sit one of them down, have him share is concerns, listen to the other 11 members give input, and watch everything come together.  So often you will hear “I never would have thought of that!” or “How in the world did I miss that?!” and you will always here “Wow!  Thank you so much everyone!”  12 heads really is better than 1!

So if you don’t have a strong team put together yet to help you run your business, consider joining one of our mastermind groups that are starting up.  You will find the support and the inspiration alone to be incredibly empowering.  And even if you do have a strong support system in place, we’d still love to have you on our team!  Join a group, share your expertise, and be a part of the success of others.  If you are anything like me, that is the most fulfilling thing one can do.  If you are interested in joining one, just go to https://secure.scheduleonce.com/CynthiaMcIntosh for availability and sign up!  We look forward to seeing you there.

And as always, if you have any questions, concerns, comments, suggestions…feel free to contact us.  We would love to hear from you.  And we look forward to helping you in any way we can.

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

©Success With McIntosh

YESTERDAY, ALL MY TROUBLES SEEMED SO FAR AWAY!…

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Do you find yourself often looking back to the “good old days”?  Where do you spend most or your time – in your past, in your present, or in your future?

Well, today let’s take a trip down memory lane and look into the past, to when you were the happiest.  Spend some time reviewing those memories, and answer the following questions.  Take some time, and really journal…don’t just breeze through them.  I think if you take your time on this, it will be rather enlightening.

So when you look back at when you were the happiest…

What were you doing?

Where were you?

Who were you with?

What exactly made you so happy?

Why were you so happy?

What were you focusing on?

Try doing this exercise with three or four of your favorite memories of the past.  Answer the same questions for each time period/memory.

After you have answered the questions for each time period, look at the answers.  Are there any patterns?  Maybe you were really happy because you were with your family.  Or because you had no stress.  Or because you were living somewhere you really liked.  Or you were doing a job you really enjoyed.

Use this exercise to see what truly made you happy.  Then look at today.  Is what made you so happy still part of your life today?  If it made you so happy in the past, is there a way to bring it back into your life today?

This is really not as easy to do as you would think.  It takes some real soul searching.  After you’ve worked on it, let us know your thoughts!  If you need help with trying to figure it out, we certainly understand. There are no right answers.  Feel free to get in touch with us if you need help figuring out what makes you happy, and how to integrate it into your current life.  We’d love to hear from you!

Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

©Success With McIntosh