THE IMPOSSIBILITY OF THE IMPOSSIBLE

By: Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

IMPOSSIBLE

Have you ever taken the time to think about things that are common place today, that were considered impossible not too long ago?  Consider today’s athletes – on July 24th, 1908 an American athlete by the name of Johnny Hayes ran a marathon in London, and created a new world’s record by completeting the marathon in 2 hours, 55 minutes, and 18.4 seconds.  Just under 3

hours.  That was the world’s record!  If  you suggested that it was possible to run the marathon any faster than that, he probably wouldn’t have listened…he knew how hard he’d worked to make that record.  And if you told him that he could cut that time by a third, he would have told you it’s absolutely impossible.  It can’t be done.  No human could run a marathon in 2 hours.  But over the years, athletes have competed and tried to beat the previous record.  Every few years they set a new record by breaking the old one by just a few seconds – and today the record stands at 2 hours, 2 minutes, and 57 seconds, set by Dennis Kimetto from Kenya on September 28th, 2014 at the Berlin Marathon.  Marathon runners are now focusing on breaking that 2 hour mark, and they will do it at some point…but not without an incredible amount of determination and hard work.

I won’t say that absolutely nothing is impossible.  But what I will say is that before we just throw our ideas and dreams into the “impossible bin”, we need to really look at why we are doing it.  So many times we miss out because we label something impossible before we even try or as soon as it gets a little tough.  In reality, the majority of the time when we say something is impossible, what we really mean is that it isn’t important enough to us, or isn’t worth the effort…or maybe we just don’t believe we can do it.

As a life coach, my goal is to help my clients to “dream huge”.  Not just big, but huge.  Forget being logical, forget what you can or can’t do, forget all the obsticles.  Just dream.  “If you had a magic wand, and you could make absolutely anything happen, you could change anything about you, your life, or your circumstances right now, what would you do?”, I ask them.  And the funny thing is that if you take away all of the road blocks like not having enough money, not having a good enough education…and you just let yourself dream, you can come up with a wonderful vision.  But so many of us don’t do that because we feel that there is no way we can get there – it’s impossible.  It’s illogical.  It’s rediculous.  It’s just daydreaming…and you know what they say about daydreamers!

But, if you can set aside all the self-created road blocks, and just dream, it’s amazing what can happen.  Instead of looking at your future as what you wish you could do or you hope you can do, you start looking at your future from the standpoint of what you need to do to make it happen.  It takes you from just “trying to do your best” to doing what you need to do to be your best.

Dreaming huge allows you to look at what you really want out of life, what really matters to you, and what you consider real success to be.  And that is all very important information.  You have to have those answers in order to achieve your full potential.  If you dare to dream huge, reach for the stars, and really focus on a vision for your future, and then figure out what you have to do to make it happen, it changes your whole focus.  It gives your purpose.  It gives you clarity.  It enables you.  It strengthens you.  It empowers you.  And as I say to my clients, if you shoot for the stars and don’t quite make it, well, you still will get a lot farther than if you didn’t shoot for the stars at all!

So I’m not going to say that nothing is impossible.  But what I AM going to say is that before you label it as impossible, be sure it really is impossible.  If it’s hard, label it hard.  If it’s excruciatingly hard, then label it so.  If it’s not worth the trouble, then label it so.  But if it is something that you really want to do and really believe in, don’t just flush it as impossible.  Look at it honestly, and figure out what you need to do to make it happen.  Don’t listen to other people who tell you it’s impossible!  Believe in yourself.

And before you say it can’t be done, give us a call and get a second opinion.  You’ll be glad you did!  Because we will never tell you that you can’t…we’ll just ask you how you plan on doing it, and help you put that plan together.  Then it’s up to you whether it is worth it to put in the effort.

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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The Power of Teamwork

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Do you think about your business first thing in the morning before you even get up?  Is your goal for the day what makes you get out of bed?  Then you’re probably an entrepreneur.

Do you fall asleep listening to a ceiling fan and hearing a song in the sound it makes?  Do you hear music in every situation?  Then you are an artist.

And whether you are an entrepreneur, an artist, or a business owner, one of the hardest lessons to learn is teamwork.  I have the right to say that…I’m a self-employed entrepreneur, and I speak from experience.  Nowhere in school, at least not when I was Successin college (and granted, that was lightyears ago), did they teach students on the subject I am going to cover in this blog, and yet I believe it is one of the most important lesson one has to learn in order to be successful in business.  And it’s worth repeating – regardless of whether you are an entrepreneur, business owner, or artist, this blog is relevent to you.  Artists don’t always think of themselves as business owners, and that is something I have discussed with quite a few artists, but you are.  If your music is your career, then it is your business.  And as a business owner, this blog is important to you.

As entrepreneurs and artists, we are very passionate about what we do.  It’s different than having a 9 to 5 job working for someone else and creating their dream.  Our work is who we are…it’s what drives us.  It’s what wakes us up in the morning.  It’s what we talk about the most.  It is what determines what kind of relationships we have.  Many of, and sometimes ALL of our decisions throughout the day are made around our work.  And that’s not necessarily a bad thing if handled in a positive way – but I’ll save that discussion for another blog.  But it’s not a bad thing.  In fact, I happen to LOVE to work with entrepreneurs and artists BECAUSE of that passion and zeal for life and work.  They are inspiring.  They are determined.  And they typically just don’t let things get them down.  One thing for sure – you DON’T tell them “it can’t be done”!

But, back to teamwork…
The very characteristics that I just described also often times become our greatest challenge.  The fact that we are so passionate about our work, the fact that we are so emotionally invested in our work, the very fact that our work is so much of who we are makes it very, very difficult for us to “share” – in fact, it can feel like it is almost impossible.  We have a hard time giving up the reigns.  It is incredibly hard for us to let someone else take over a segment of our businesses and to hand over control.  It feels unnatural, it feels like it goes against everything we believe in, and it is as scary as __________ (you can fill in the blank).  The hardest thing for an entrepreneur or artist to do is trust someone else with any aspect of their business.  And that is because that business is our dream.  It is our vision.  It is our baby!  If an artist writes a song, he has poured out his heart and soul into that song.  If an entrepreneur starts a business, he has probably set aside everything else, and even gambled with everything else, in order to make that business happen.  And nothing was more exciting than when that business or song came to life.  So now to trust a portion of it to someone else is really difficult.

But this is what I tell clients – you can’t be an expert at everything.  If you tell yourself you are, you’d better be careful.  I don’t want to go to a doctor who tells me that he is an expert at everything, because I won’t trust him.  If I need to go to the doctor because I have a heart issue, you’d better believe that I am going to go to a specialist!  Well, we need to give our businesses the same kind of care.  If we hang on to all aspects of our business and insist on doing it all by ourselves and on retaining control of everything, our business is going to suffer.   It won’t reach it’s full potential.  It won’t grow as it should.  It is really important to pay attention to your business by providing it the care it needs and deserves.  And the way to do that, while in principle is simple, putting it into action is not simple.  What I tell most clients that are having trouble with their businesses is this: “Take the time to build relationships.  Find people you really trust.  Hire experts you really trust, let them take over the things in your business that you are not an expert at, and you do what is your expertise and passion.”  It is important to hire people with the mindset of getting to really know and trust them and let them take over areas of your business that you need help with.

Because I have seen this as a common problem among clients, I have created mastermind groups that are designed for entrepreneurs and artists and their unique needs.  Our mastermind groups are put together in a format that provides individualized guidance to each member, and creates strong relationships built on trust, a common mindset, and a desire to support each other’s businesses.  The beauty of surrounding yourself with other business owners and learning to know and trust them, to share your expertise with them and have them do the same for you, is that you find that it opens up amazing doors.  Every person in the group will have a different background, different experiences, different training, and different strengths.  And so as you share your business concerns, every person in the group will consider the concerns from a different perspective.  In the mastermind groups, you will build a team that will focus on building your business and provide you with expertise that you don’t have, and you will have the opportunity to do the same for each of them.  And that is powerful!  As entrepreneurs and artists, we tend to be “tunnel visioned” – we are so close to the problem that it is hard to see the right steps to take to overcome the problem.  So it is absolutely amazing and so exciting to watch what happens when you put a group of 12 passionate business owners together, sit one of them down, have him share is concerns, listen to the other 11 members give input, and watch everything come together.  So often you will hear “I never would have thought of that!” or “How in the world did I miss that?!” and you will always here “Wow!  Thank you so much everyone!”  12 heads really is better than 1!

So if you don’t have a strong team put together yet to help you run your business, consider joining one of our mastermind groups that are starting up.  You will find the support and the inspiration alone to be incredibly empowering.  And even if you do have a strong support system in place, we’d still love to have you on our team!  Join a group, share your expertise, and be a part of the success of others.  If you are anything like me, that is the most fulfilling thing one can do.  If you are interested in joining one, just go to https://secure.scheduleonce.com/CynthiaMcIntosh for availability and sign up!  We look forward to seeing you there.

And as always, if you have any questions, concerns, comments, suggestions…feel free to contact us.  We would love to hear from you.  And we look forward to helping you in any way we can.

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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YESTERDAY, ALL MY TROUBLES SEEMED SO FAR AWAY!…

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Do you find yourself often looking back to the “good old days”?  Where do you spend most or your time – in your past, in your present, or in your future?

Well, today let’s take a trip down memory lane and look into the past, to when you were the happiest.  Spend some time reviewing those memories, and answer the following questions.  Take some time, and really journal…don’t just breeze through them.  I think if you take your time on this, it will be rather enlightening.

So when you look back at when you were the happiest…

What were you doing?

Where were you?

Who were you with?

What exactly made you so happy?

Why were you so happy?

What were you focusing on?

Try doing this exercise with three or four of your favorite memories of the past.  Answer the same questions for each time period/memory.

After you have answered the questions for each time period, look at the answers.  Are there any patterns?  Maybe you were really happy because you were with your family.  Or because you had no stress.  Or because you were living somewhere you really liked.  Or you were doing a job you really enjoyed.

Use this exercise to see what truly made you happy.  Then look at today.  Is what made you so happy still part of your life today?  If it made you so happy in the past, is there a way to bring it back into your life today?

This is really not as easy to do as you would think.  It takes some real soul searching.  After you’ve worked on it, let us know your thoughts!  If you need help with trying to figure it out, we certainly understand. There are no right answers.  Feel free to get in touch with us if you need help figuring out what makes you happy, and how to integrate it into your current life.  We’d love to hear from you!

Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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OH, THE ANTICIPATION!!!

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Anticipation is amazing. It’s energizing. It’s stimulating. It’s enabling. Just ask a 4 year old on Christmas Eve!

Anticipation is important. Think about it – if you’re really excited about tomorrow, will you be depressed? Will you be stressed? Will you be tired? In fact, I don’t know about you, but when I have something exciting going on in my life, and someone does something or says something to upset or discourage me, I find it very easy to say “You know what?! I’m happy. Life is good! I’m looking forward to tomorrow, and I’m not going to let you take that away from me!” I want to stay focused on tomorrow.

I think there’s a lesson to take away from that. Having an exciting vision for the futureand taking deliberate steps to make your vision become a reality makes every day exciting, makes every tomorrow an opportunity, makes every yesterday an accomplishment, and makes the future something to look forward to.

What are you anticipating in the next 24 hours?anticipation
Have you taken the time to actually create things that you can look forward to?
How has that anticipation increased your drive? Changed your day today? Effected your mood today? Changed the way you have handled today’s unwanted distractions?

Share your stories with us! Sharing your experiences helps others by encouraging them and letting them learn from what you’ve been through. So we’d love to hear from you!

To your success,
Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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TALKING TO MYSELF AGAIN!!!

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

I think we all do it from time to time, whether we want to fess up to it or not.  We all talk to ourselves.  Maybe not.  I have no scientific evidence to back it up, but I think we all do it.  I’ll admit, I do.  In fact, I have some pretty great conversations with myself!  Me, Myself, and I have very philosophical discussions.  We plan my week together.  We cry on my shoulder together.  We vent to me.  I’m pretty easy to talk to. (The other “person” I talk to a lot is my dog, Strawberry – she’s easy to talk to, too.)

Ok, not before I’ve scared the heck out of you and you call someone with a white jacket to come and pick me up, I’d better get serious.

So, like I said earlier, I’d venture to guess that we all do talk to ourselves, even if it’s not outloud.  But here’s why I bring it up.  I find that I and others I’ve worked with tend to talk to ourselves in ways that are very distructive at times.  In fact, we really tend to kick ourselves when we’re down, and don’t even realize it!  Often we think things to ourselves and we don’t even pay attention to the fact that we are doing it – at least not consciously.  But subconsciously it effects us.  And if we are in the habit of talking negatively to ourselves counsciously, we will be doing it a lot more subconsciously when we aren’t aware that we are doing it.

Here’s an example:

I worked with a woman who was just the sweetest woman ever.  She was full of life, she loved people, and I really enjoyed working with her.  But she was going through some really tough times.  As we started digging into her situation, I noticed that she would say things like “I can’t believe I did that!  THAT was stupid!”, “I can be so stupid sometimes!’, “I wish I could be more like so-and-so!”, or “I sure need to get my act together!”.  And as I noticed these kinds of comments from her, I brought it up.  I asked her to start paying attention to how she talks to, and about, herself.  The next day she admitted to me that she not that she was paying attention to it, she found that she wakes up and immediately start telling herself how she didn’t look good, she was a terrible mother, she was lazy, and so on.  So we decided to work on her self-talk.

This client happened to have a very young son, who she of course loved very much.  So I asked her how she would handle it if she caught someone talking to her son in the manner that I heard her talking to herself.  How would she react if someone walked up to her son and said “I wish you were more like so-and-so”, “You really are never going to amount to anything!”, or “Can’t you do anything right?!”.  I could see on her face that this trigered a very negative reaction in her.  The thought of it really upset her.  She was horrified.  She told me that no one, but NO ONE, would get away with talking to her son that way!  When I asked her why not, her response was “Because it’s rude, insensitive, and hurtful!”  And as soon as she said that, you could see the lightbulb go on.  She knew where I was going with this.  She was right…it WAS rude, insensitive, and hurtful!  And yet she treated herself that way every day, all day!

Thankfully she started paying attention to this pattern, and started talking to herself.  When she caught herself talking negatively, she imagined her son, and started talking to herself the way she would want someone talking to her son.  She started showing herself love, compassion, and forgiveness.  And I can’t begin to tell you the difference I saw in her life, almost immediately!  The change was amazing, and exciting!

The irony of it is that everyone around you can compliment you, but if you are in the habit of being hard on yourself, those compliments won’t stick.  If someone tells you you just came up with a brilliant idea, you will immediately think to yourself “Right.  Sure.  Anyone else would have come up with the same thing!”.  If someone told you that you looked beautiful, you would negate it by telling yourself how wrong that person was.  Yoi won’t hear the compliments.  BUT the minute someone said something negative or uncomplimentary, you will jump on it and take it as gospel…it will confirm that everything you’ve been saying to yourself is true.  It truly is important to pay attention to how you talk to yourself and what you think of yourself.  You are special, you have a unique sets of talents and gifts, and you have a purpose on this earth.  You are here for a reason, and you are loved.  There ARE people in your life, or who will be in your life, who love you and need you.  But if you are constantly cutting yourself down, insulting yourself, and condemning yourself, you will never reach your potential.

So go celebrate who you are!  Celebrate your successes!  Congratulate yourself on your achievements!  Encourage and support yourself through the tough times.  Give yourself credit for what you have accomplished and forgive yourself for your mistakes and wrong doings along the way.  Take your failures as a learning experience, and be sure that you turn them into a powerful part of your success story!  You deserve it!

You ARE unique
You ARE special
You ARE amazing
You ARE loved
You have a purpose

Pay attention to how you talk to yourself this week.  Do you have a habit of negative self-talk?  If so, what are you going to do to break the habit?  How has learning to speak more positively to yourself and about yourself affected your life?  Please share your story, and if you know someone who could be helped by this blog, please share it with them!

To your success,
Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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Tree or Tumbleweed?

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Written by Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

 

So, I asked a question this week. Did you see it? What did you think when you read it? Let me guess…

Was it, “HUH?!”?

Well, let me quickly explain the question, and then maybe it will make sense, and hopefully it might even get you thinking.

The question was, “Are you a tree, or a tumbleweed?”

So, a tumbleweed. Let’s start there. What is a tumbleweed? Well, it’s not much really. It’s a piece of “whatever”, that blows around wherever it happens to be blown, picking up more “whatever” that it passes along the way, until it eventually crashes into something…

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where it gets stuck.

Ever feel like a tumbleweed? I will admit, I have. I’d run around doing what had to be done, putting out fires, making everyone happy as much as I could (and failing miserably, I might add), controlled by whatever was going on around me, whatever people said or thought, how I felt, and basically being blown around wherever my circumstances sent me. And since circumstances, how I felt, how people felt, and priorities change with the direction of the wind, I was constantly feeling like I was just getting blown around and completely out of control.

A tree, on the other hand, has roots. Some deeper than others. I heard someone recently say that the Redwood trees grow to be hundreds of feet tall, but their roots only go down three feet! However, they go down three feet, then spread out and wrap themselves around the roots of the other trees around them. What happens then is that when big storms hit, they hit against the whole forest, not individual trees, so the trees are very strong – and remain unharmed. In fact, he went on to say that there are trees in the Redwood Forest that have been dead for years, but are still standing, because the other trees around them are holding them up!!! (I think there is a lesson in there somewhere for us as well. But I’ll save that for another blog.) Isn’t that fascinating?!

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My point though, is that a tree has roots. It digs deep into the ground. I live to become more like a tree and less like a tumbleweed. I want to have strong roots, a solid foundation, to know who I am, to stand strong on what I believe in, and to live life with conviction and passion. I want to be a tree that produces fruit for others, shelter, comfort, and beauty.

The thing about a tumbleweed is that it rolls around picking up more and more junk (negative things people say, bitterness, frustration, anger…) along the way, and becoming more and more dangerous to those in its path.

So now, what are you…
A tree, or a tumbleweed?
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