YESTERDAY, ALL MY TROUBLES SEEMED SO FAR AWAY!…

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Do you find yourself often looking back to the “good old days”?  Where do you spend most or your time – in your past, in your present, or in your future?

Well, today let’s take a trip down memory lane and look into the past, to when you were the happiest.  Spend some time reviewing those memories, and answer the following questions.  Take some time, and really journal…don’t just breeze through them.  I think if you take your time on this, it will be rather enlightening.

So when you look back at when you were the happiest…

What were you doing?

Where were you?

Who were you with?

What exactly made you so happy?

Why were you so happy?

What were you focusing on?

Try doing this exercise with three or four of your favorite memories of the past.  Answer the same questions for each time period/memory.

After you have answered the questions for each time period, look at the answers.  Are there any patterns?  Maybe you were really happy because you were with your family.  Or because you had no stress.  Or because you were living somewhere you really liked.  Or you were doing a job you really enjoyed.

Use this exercise to see what truly made you happy.  Then look at today.  Is what made you so happy still part of your life today?  If it made you so happy in the past, is there a way to bring it back into your life today?

This is really not as easy to do as you would think.  It takes some real soul searching.  After you’ve worked on it, let us know your thoughts!  If you need help with trying to figure it out, we certainly understand. There are no right answers.  Feel free to get in touch with us if you need help figuring out what makes you happy, and how to integrate it into your current life.  We’d love to hear from you!

Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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OH, THE ANTICIPATION!!!

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Anticipation is amazing. It’s energizing. It’s stimulating. It’s enabling. Just ask a 4 year old on Christmas Eve!

Anticipation is important. Think about it – if you’re really excited about tomorrow, will you be depressed? Will you be stressed? Will you be tired? In fact, I don’t know about you, but when I have something exciting going on in my life, and someone does something or says something to upset or discourage me, I find it very easy to say “You know what?! I’m happy. Life is good! I’m looking forward to tomorrow, and I’m not going to let you take that away from me!” I want to stay focused on tomorrow.

I think there’s a lesson to take away from that. Having an exciting vision for the futureand taking deliberate steps to make your vision become a reality makes every day exciting, makes every tomorrow an opportunity, makes every yesterday an accomplishment, and makes the future something to look forward to.

What are you anticipating in the next 24 hours?anticipation
Have you taken the time to actually create things that you can look forward to?
How has that anticipation increased your drive? Changed your day today? Effected your mood today? Changed the way you have handled today’s unwanted distractions?

Share your stories with us! Sharing your experiences helps others by encouraging them and letting them learn from what you’ve been through. So we’d love to hear from you!

To your success,
Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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PUT THE BLINDERS ON!!!

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

Did you ever wonder why a horse wears blinders – the patches on the side of their heads?  It’s because their eyes are on the side of their heads, like a chicken, instead of in the front of their heads, like a dog.  So they have peripheral vision, which means they are easily distracted and will run off course without the help of blinders to keep them focused on the direction they are supposed to be on.  I read that it’s even said that blinders help a horse take chances it would never take otherwise, because it is focused on where it is supposed to go and does not get distracted or spooked by what is going on around it.

Do you every feel like you need blinders on to keep you focused on what you want to accomplish and what you want your final destination to be?  blinders  My vision for my future is my blinder.  My vision gives me tunnel vision.  I have to have intense focus, or tunnel vision, to finish the race that I began, and to stay on course.  I focus on my target – the final goal, and I don’t let myself get spooked or side-tracked by people and things around me.  When I find that my goals are not being met, my priorities are becoming questionable, my schedule is getting out of control, or my motivation is getting a bit weak, it’s time to revisit my vision and remind myself of the course I am supposed to be on, and why.  Once I reallign my schedule and priorities with my vision, I need to implement tools to help me remain focused and on the right track.

Do you have blinders on?  What keeps you focused?  What are you focused on?  Share your stories!  We’d love to hear from you!

To your success,
Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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TALKING TO MYSELF AGAIN!!!

By Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

I think we all do it from time to time, whether we want to fess up to it or not.  We all talk to ourselves.  Maybe not.  I have no scientific evidence to back it up, but I think we all do it.  I’ll admit, I do.  In fact, I have some pretty great conversations with myself!  Me, Myself, and I have very philosophical discussions.  We plan my week together.  We cry on my shoulder together.  We vent to me.  I’m pretty easy to talk to. (The other “person” I talk to a lot is my dog, Strawberry – she’s easy to talk to, too.)

Ok, not before I’ve scared the heck out of you and you call someone with a white jacket to come and pick me up, I’d better get serious.

So, like I said earlier, I’d venture to guess that we all do talk to ourselves, even if it’s not outloud.  But here’s why I bring it up.  I find that I and others I’ve worked with tend to talk to ourselves in ways that are very distructive at times.  In fact, we really tend to kick ourselves when we’re down, and don’t even realize it!  Often we think things to ourselves and we don’t even pay attention to the fact that we are doing it – at least not consciously.  But subconsciously it effects us.  And if we are in the habit of talking negatively to ourselves counsciously, we will be doing it a lot more subconsciously when we aren’t aware that we are doing it.

Here’s an example:

I worked with a woman who was just the sweetest woman ever.  She was full of life, she loved people, and I really enjoyed working with her.  But she was going through some really tough times.  As we started digging into her situation, I noticed that she would say things like “I can’t believe I did that!  THAT was stupid!”, “I can be so stupid sometimes!’, “I wish I could be more like so-and-so!”, or “I sure need to get my act together!”.  And as I noticed these kinds of comments from her, I brought it up.  I asked her to start paying attention to how she talks to, and about, herself.  The next day she admitted to me that she not that she was paying attention to it, she found that she wakes up and immediately start telling herself how she didn’t look good, she was a terrible mother, she was lazy, and so on.  So we decided to work on her self-talk.

This client happened to have a very young son, who she of course loved very much.  So I asked her how she would handle it if she caught someone talking to her son in the manner that I heard her talking to herself.  How would she react if someone walked up to her son and said “I wish you were more like so-and-so”, “You really are never going to amount to anything!”, or “Can’t you do anything right?!”.  I could see on her face that this trigered a very negative reaction in her.  The thought of it really upset her.  She was horrified.  She told me that no one, but NO ONE, would get away with talking to her son that way!  When I asked her why not, her response was “Because it’s rude, insensitive, and hurtful!”  And as soon as she said that, you could see the lightbulb go on.  She knew where I was going with this.  She was right…it WAS rude, insensitive, and hurtful!  And yet she treated herself that way every day, all day!

Thankfully she started paying attention to this pattern, and started talking to herself.  When she caught herself talking negatively, she imagined her son, and started talking to herself the way she would want someone talking to her son.  She started showing herself love, compassion, and forgiveness.  And I can’t begin to tell you the difference I saw in her life, almost immediately!  The change was amazing, and exciting!

The irony of it is that everyone around you can compliment you, but if you are in the habit of being hard on yourself, those compliments won’t stick.  If someone tells you you just came up with a brilliant idea, you will immediately think to yourself “Right.  Sure.  Anyone else would have come up with the same thing!”.  If someone told you that you looked beautiful, you would negate it by telling yourself how wrong that person was.  Yoi won’t hear the compliments.  BUT the minute someone said something negative or uncomplimentary, you will jump on it and take it as gospel…it will confirm that everything you’ve been saying to yourself is true.  It truly is important to pay attention to how you talk to yourself and what you think of yourself.  You are special, you have a unique sets of talents and gifts, and you have a purpose on this earth.  You are here for a reason, and you are loved.  There ARE people in your life, or who will be in your life, who love you and need you.  But if you are constantly cutting yourself down, insulting yourself, and condemning yourself, you will never reach your potential.

So go celebrate who you are!  Celebrate your successes!  Congratulate yourself on your achievements!  Encourage and support yourself through the tough times.  Give yourself credit for what you have accomplished and forgive yourself for your mistakes and wrong doings along the way.  Take your failures as a learning experience, and be sure that you turn them into a powerful part of your success story!  You deserve it!

You ARE unique
You ARE special
You ARE amazing
You ARE loved
You have a purpose

Pay attention to how you talk to yourself this week.  Do you have a habit of negative self-talk?  If so, what are you going to do to break the habit?  How has learning to speak more positively to yourself and about yourself affected your life?  Please share your story, and if you know someone who could be helped by this blog, please share it with them!

To your success,
Cynthia McIntosh

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

©Success With McIntosh

WHAT JUST HAPPENED?!

Written by Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

We’ve all had times in our lives that we can look back on and wonder why things happened the way they did.  As I write this blog, many people in Texas are dealing with tragic losses.  Some of them have lost absolutely everything.  Some have even lost loved ones to the storm they named Harvey.  It is said that Harvey was a 1 in a 1000 year flood event.  That’s huge, no matter how you look at it!  And with it came devistation.  I honestly can’t imagine what the wonderful people of Texas are going through.  I’m sitting in my studio in sunny Southern California complaining about the triple-digit heat!  Not a drop of rain here, and we could use it!  Meanwhile Houston, Texas is under water.  And I think about our neighbors in Houston and what they are going through, and the heat doesn’t seem so bad!

I can look back over my life and see a lot of pain, disappointment, and regret.  But I can also honestly say that all of it has worked together to make me who I am today…it has made me strong; it has made me determined; it has made me focused; it has taught me to be very sensitive to the needs and feelings of others; it has taught me compassion.  It has given me an intense desire to help those around me.  It has taught me not only to love those around me, but to be able to accept love from them.  It has taught me humility.  And above all, it has taught me that if I focus on me and my problems, my problems look huge –  but when I focus on the needs of others and how I can help them, my problems tend to really diminish.

I pray for those in Texas who are dealing with such terrible devistation and feel like they have lost everything.  I pray for stength for every one of them.  I pray for courage.  I pray for comfort.  And I pray that God will bring people into their lives to help them and show them love.

God bless each and every one of them in a very special way.

My heart goes out to all of you.

And may we all treat each other with respect, consideration, love, and compassion.  Everyone has “stuff”, and we never know what the person we are talking to is going through.  Sometimes something as little as a smile, or a compliment, or a word of encouragement can change a person’s whole day, and sometimes even their life!  And the icing on the cake is that if you are thinking about others, it makes your life easier as well, because you aren’t so focused on your own problems.  Just sayin’.

So go out there and make a difference in someone’s life.  Being a positive influence in the lives of those around you is a big part of living a successful life, no matter what success means to you!

Cynthia McIntosh

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Tree or Tumbleweed?

Blog – 8/28/17small tumbleweed

Written by Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

 

So, I asked a question this week. Did you see it? What did you think when you read it? Let me guess…

Was it, “HUH?!”?

Well, let me quickly explain the question, and then maybe it will make sense, and hopefully it might even get you thinking.

The question was, “Are you a tree, or a tumbleweed?”

So, a tumbleweed. Let’s start there. What is a tumbleweed? Well, it’s not much really. It’s a piece of “whatever”, that blows around wherever it happens to be blown, picking up more “whatever” that it passes along the way, until it eventually crashes into something…

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where it gets stuck.

Ever feel like a tumbleweed? I will admit, I have. I’d run around doing what had to be done, putting out fires, making everyone happy as much as I could (and failing miserably, I might add), controlled by whatever was going on around me, whatever people said or thought, how I felt, and basically being blown around wherever my circumstances sent me. And since circumstances, how I felt, how people felt, and priorities change with the direction of the wind, I was constantly feeling like I was just getting blown around and completely out of control.

A tree, on the other hand, has roots. Some deeper than others. I heard someone recently say that the Redwood trees grow to be hundreds of feet tall, but their roots only go down three feet! However, they go down three feet, then spread out and wrap themselves around the roots of the other trees around them. What happens then is that when big storms hit, they hit against the whole forest, not individual trees, so the trees are very strong – and remain unharmed. In fact, he went on to say that there are trees in the Redwood Forest that have been dead for years, but are still standing, because the other trees around them are holding them up!!! (I think there is a lesson in there somewhere for us as well. But I’ll save that for another blog.) Isn’t that fascinating?!

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My point though, is that a tree has roots. It digs deep into the ground. I live to become more like a tree and less like a tumbleweed. I want to have strong roots, a solid foundation, to know who I am, to stand strong on what I believe in, and to live life with conviction and passion. I want to be a tree that produces fruit for others, shelter, comfort, and beauty.

The thing about a tumbleweed is that it rolls around picking up more and more junk (negative things people say, bitterness, frustration, anger…) along the way, and becoming more and more dangerous to those in its path.

So now, what are you…
A tree, or a tumbleweed?
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CRAZINESS!!!

Okay, I’ll go ahead and admit it…I’ve been out of touch!  BUT you’ll be thanking me here very soon!

Actually, it’s been a long six months….lots of good, exciting changes, and some not so good and exciting.  The not so good and exciting news is that it is with a very heavy heart and much sadness that I have to announce that I am no longer on Indie104.  At least not for the time being.  They are in the process of going through some changes of their own, and I’m not sure where it’s going to “land”.  I’m still involved with the Indie104 family, am helping to get things settled down, and hopefully someday soon I’ll be back on the air with them. Stay tuned, and I’ll keep you posted!

In the meantime, I have taken this opportunity to focus on the show on BBS Radio.  So you will see a lot of changes.  I’m getting some new staff on board, some new marketing experts, new guests (wait until you hear what we are doing on the show with guests!!!), a new format, and even a new co-host!  I’m so excited that I can’t wait to get started!  So you may have noticed some re-runs happening, and that is why.  But it will be well be worth it.  Once we are up and running as planned, I will have the wonderful opportunity of serving the music community in even more powerful and exciting ways, being able to meet more personally with each of you, and being more involved in your success.  So hang in there, thank you so much for your patience, and stay tuned!

Reach for the stars, never give up, and let me know if I can be part of your success!  God bless!

Cynthia McIntosh
Artist Development Specialist
Radio Talk Show Host
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