THE IMPOSSIBILITY OF THE IMPOSSIBLE

By: Cynthia McIntosh
Success With McIntosh

IMPOSSIBLE

Have you ever taken the time to think about things that are common place today, that were considered impossible not too long ago?  Consider today’s athletes – on July 24th, 1908 an American athlete by the name of Johnny Hayes ran a marathon in London, and created a new world’s record by completeting the marathon in 2 hours, 55 minutes, and 18.4 seconds.  Just under 3

hours.  That was the world’s record!  If  you suggested that it was possible to run the marathon any faster than that, he probably wouldn’t have listened…he knew how hard he’d worked to make that record.  And if you told him that he could cut that time by a third, he would have told you it’s absolutely impossible.  It can’t be done.  No human could run a marathon in 2 hours.  But over the years, athletes have competed and tried to beat the previous record.  Every few years they set a new record by breaking the old one by just a few seconds – and today the record stands at 2 hours, 2 minutes, and 57 seconds, set by Dennis Kimetto from Kenya on September 28th, 2014 at the Berlin Marathon.  Marathon runners are now focusing on breaking that 2 hour mark, and they will do it at some point…but not without an incredible amount of determination and hard work.

I won’t say that absolutely nothing is impossible.  But what I will say is that before we just throw our ideas and dreams into the “impossible bin”, we need to really look at why we are doing it.  So many times we miss out because we label something impossible before we even try or as soon as it gets a little tough.  In reality, the majority of the time when we say something is impossible, what we really mean is that it isn’t important enough to us, or isn’t worth the effort…or maybe we just don’t believe we can do it.

As a life coach, my goal is to help my clients to “dream huge”.  Not just big, but huge.  Forget being logical, forget what you can or can’t do, forget all the obsticles.  Just dream.  “If you had a magic wand, and you could make absolutely anything happen, you could change anything about you, your life, or your circumstances right now, what would you do?”, I ask them.  And the funny thing is that if you take away all of the road blocks like not having enough money, not having a good enough education…and you just let yourself dream, you can come up with a wonderful vision.  But so many of us don’t do that because we feel that there is no way we can get there – it’s impossible.  It’s illogical.  It’s rediculous.  It’s just daydreaming…and you know what they say about daydreamers!

But, if you can set aside all the self-created road blocks, and just dream, it’s amazing what can happen.  Instead of looking at your future as what you wish you could do or you hope you can do, you start looking at your future from the standpoint of what you need to do to make it happen.  It takes you from just “trying to do your best” to doing what you need to do to be your best.

Dreaming huge allows you to look at what you really want out of life, what really matters to you, and what you consider real success to be.  And that is all very important information.  You have to have those answers in order to achieve your full potential.  If you dare to dream huge, reach for the stars, and really focus on a vision for your future, and then figure out what you have to do to make it happen, it changes your whole focus.  It gives your purpose.  It gives you clarity.  It enables you.  It strengthens you.  It empowers you.  And as I say to my clients, if you shoot for the stars and don’t quite make it, well, you still will get a lot farther than if you didn’t shoot for the stars at all!

So I’m not going to say that nothing is impossible.  But what I AM going to say is that before you label it as impossible, be sure it really is impossible.  If it’s hard, label it hard.  If it’s excruciatingly hard, then label it so.  If it’s not worth the trouble, then label it so.  But if it is something that you really want to do and really believe in, don’t just flush it as impossible.  Look at it honestly, and figure out what you need to do to make it happen.  Don’t listen to other people who tell you it’s impossible!  Believe in yourself.

And before you say it can’t be done, give us a call and get a second opinion.  You’ll be glad you did!  Because we will never tell you that you can’t…we’ll just ask you how you plan on doing it, and help you put that plan together.  Then it’s up to you whether it is worth it to put in the effort.

If you need help creating a positive focus and vision for your life, we’d love to hear from you.  We are hear to help and would be thrilled to be a part of your success story.  Feel free to contact us, and we look forward to hearing from you!

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Getting Through Storms in Life

We all have them.  And for many of us, when we are in the middle of them, they feel like they will never end.  We feel like they are going to drown us.  We feel like no one can ever understand what we are going through.  We isolate.  We lose sleep, or we sleep too much.  We don’t eat, or we eat too much.

the_sovereign_of_storms_by_procrust-d38gl3iWe all handle stress, frustration, and disappointment in different ways.  But how we handle it can make all the difference in the world on how we come out of the situation.  How we handle it often defines what the final outcome will be.  And how we handle it is a choice.  I know it doesn’t always feel like it, but I really believe that it is.  I feel very strongly about this.  Let me tell you why:

Today I live in a house that I really enjoy, with people I love being around, and I have a wonderfully fulfilling career.  I have the world’s greatest coach (in my opinion), and I look forward to my future..But I want to share with you that it definitely has not always been this way.  In fact, I have to humbly admit that I regret that I wasted so many years feeling defeated by life!

Life hasn’t always been easy for me.  It isn’t always easy for anyone.  I’ve dealt with family issues, rejection issues, financial issues, and even cancer issues.  And for years it DID leave me feeling defeated.  But I’ve learned through my challenges that how I chose to approach them has a huge impact on how each chapter of my life ends, who I become through the challenges, and whether the challenges end up being destructive or being a blessing.

You see, up until a few years ago, I had been an accountant.  I had spent the majority of my lifetime  making my living on a computer.  Then one day I woke up in the hospital. I was told that while I had gone into the hospital expecting to have minor surgery for skin cancer,they went to remove the cancer on the back of my hand and found that it was much more than they had anticipated.The cancer had already eaten away all the nerves, tendons, muscles, and even veins in my right hand –  and yes, I’m right-handed.  They had to take everything out.  To save my hand, they had to re-build it with muscles, tendons, and veins from my right arm, but I lost most of the use of my right hand and arm.  I do have to thank God that the doctors got to the cancer in time (within being a few days too late) to stop it from going into my bones in my hand – that would have been a game changer, and I wouldn’t be writing this to you today.

After surgery, cancer treatments, and physical therapy, I needed to make some changes.  I was not able to use a computer as I had before, and I was forced into a career change.  Thankfully, I have wonderfully supportive friends, because at the ripe old age of (?) I found myself looking for a whole new career that did not require the use of my right hand and that did not require that I go outdoors much (another result of cancer).

After much time, prayer and thought, my desire to help people succeed and my love for people led me to research and ultimately take on life coaching as my new career path. I studied coaching, and it has been an amazing transition.  I feel like I am doing what I was supposed to be doing all along.  I feel released to be what I’ve always wanted to be.  I’m loving life!

Life still has it’s challenges.  It always will.  But I’m grateful that I now spend my time making a difference in the lives of others by doing something I love – all because a really tough time in life forced me to leave my comfort zone and do something completely new.

I don’t spend a lot of time talking about life’s challenges.  grid9_Beautiful-Weather2  I prefer to focus on the things that I am grateful for.  But I know that some of you are going through struggles, and I hope that this story can be an encouragement to you.  If you or someone you know can benefit from this story, please share it – that’s what makes it worth while for me!

If you have a story you would like to share or if this article has touched your life in any way, please share it with us by commenting to this post.  We’d love to hear from you!

And don’t forget to surround yourself with positive people who will support you.  Being around positive, successful people is the first step to having a successful life of your own.

Cynthia McIntosh
Success Coach
Highway 2 Success